What to Look for No Matter What You Are Looking For

by Her-Motorcycle
(Simi Valley, CA)

We women look for things all of the time. We look for the right college, the right career, the right home to live in. We look for the right person to love (and end up loving all of the wrong ones along the way); we look for the right way to raise our children or the right way to keep from having them. We look for the right way to keep our health and the right way to live our lives. We look for the right house, the right neighborhood and for many of us, we look for the right bike to ride and the right club or group to ride with. For all of these searches, there are a few universal things we should look for. Whether you are looking for a new bike, a replacement bike, or anything else that will play a major role in your life, the search starts with a few questions.

First, ask yourself how the bike (house, man, job, etc.) makes you feel at this very moment in your life. How will it make you feel in a month, a year or ten years down the road? Will you still be wildly in love with it in ten years or will you be looking to upgrade, improve or completely change what you have? Yes, you can have these thoughts about a lover. You can tell when you are looking at a fling and when you are looking at the real deal, but even real and true love can fizzle or falter in the cold light of reality, no matter how much work we are willing to put into it.

Second, ask yourself how the bike (or anything else) will improve your life. You will notice that is not how it will change your life because it should not. It should not make you feel better about you. It should not make you feel worse about yourself. It should improve the quality of the life that you are choosing or it may not be the right decision for you.

Third, will I be able to get back out of the contract for this bike (house, man, tugboat, etc.) if I decide it is not really what I want or need? When you buy a bike that you have financed, you can sell the bike if you can find someone to take over the payments. Once the bike is yours you can sell it, trade it or anything else that you would want to do with it. But, when you get married, some women become convinced that they are stuck, that they can’t leave the marriage if it is not working for them. Always make sure you have an out, with financing contracts, with lovers and with anything else. Never let one thing be a defining factor for you, so you can always make the change if you need to.

You should look for what makes you happy now, and forever more, no matter what it is that you are looking for.