Talking My Husband Into Letting Me Have One

Talking My Husband Into Letting Me Have One

by Shaunna
(Beaumont, TX)

So I've wanted a motorcycle since I was 15. I started saying that I wanted to get one to my husband about a year ago. At first he didn't act like he would EVER let me have one then he slowly put down his wall. I signed up for the class a while back and a couple of days before the class he freaked and told me he didn't want me to take it. Then he did it again. I signed up for the class for the third time two days ago. I am taking it the 4th he promised he wouldn't do it this time. Although yesterday we got in a huge argument over me having a bike and he told me I would never have one. Now on normal circumstances I wouldn't care if he said no because it's my life too but, I am in college and not working. I get financial aid from the school so we don't have to pay anything. So all of our cash comes from him. He makes great pay and we save A LOT. It just irritates me that he keeps saying I can have one and then freaking out and saying no. How can I make him feel comfortable with me having one? If you haven't figured it out he does not ride. Thanks for the help!

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Talking My Husband Into Letting Me Have One

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Mar 27, 2009

You go girl
by: Michele

Your "husband" needs to learn that you can do whatever you want. Don't let him keep you from doing something you really love; and I know you'll really love it! It can make you feel very powerful. If he's so afraid, prove to him how good a rider you are.

Mar 25, 2009

Hmmm
by: Lizz1958

Just a thought here, but perhaps if you BOTH took the class he would feel better. You could always get him a "class" for a gift, sign both of you up...therefore, he wont feel so left out. Not to mention, he won't back out once other guys know that he is doing it cuz he won't risk lookin' scared in front of other guys.

Mar 24, 2009

Scared? (LONG Comment)
by: Bridgett

My first thought is that he is scared. The class is a MUST for safety, but even when we are trained and prepared, there are risks! My husband rides, and I have been a passenger. I just got my first bike in Feb. My husband really had no choice because I paid for it myself. He has been supportive, sort of. He realizes it is a passion and he love it so he understands, but he admits he is afraid I might mess up and something might happen to me. Last Friday we were riding, it was the longest ride yet (an hr and a half, only been riding 3 weeks=100 miles) and sure as Poop! we pulled over to let some cars by, I turned my wheel to hard when I stopped and DOWN she went! Well, it happens, but he said he is worried, no he said I scared the sh&!t out of him. So I am gonna practice some more in the parking lot (turns and emergency stops)and I hope in time he (and I) will relax. I think he just loves you and he may be old fashioned, not used to a woman riding a motorcycle! But in the end, he will need to understand. True love does not hold back the dreams of others.
Here is a poem I read that may put things in perspective....

Risks
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your dreams, ideas before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live.
Chained by their certitudes, they are a slave: they have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is truly free.

? Anonymous (?)

Mar 24, 2009

Getting a Bike
by: kenberlyc

Does he not realize that his money is your money too? It sounds like he has saved and put enough money back that you could get a bike, maybe even a nice used one. Is he scared you will get hurt? That is what the class is for. Does he not have any hobbies that cost money? I would point out to him that just like his hobby this makes you happy.

Mar 24, 2009

Take the Class...
by: Lauren

and let him come watch. That should take care of the "you'll get hurt" excuse.

Taking the class is different than buying a bike. It's not a recurring monthly expense.

What's he afraid of? Getting laid off and can't pay for it? That you'll be more "manly" than him if you ride and he doesn't? That you'll go somewhere without him? That you'll make new friends who ride and leave him out?

Make him spill it, and then we want to know!

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