Don't want to ride my motorcycle after accident

by Renee hlina
(Waterloo, il)

I had a mortorcycle accident last fall. Not serious, but rolled on it's side making right hand turn in gravel. Never had hemet on, and had a huge lump on head, hip and knee, scared the hell out of me, all I keep thing about is that my little brother was killed on one at the age of 21, two weeks after his wedding, and 2 months later my 1st husband was kill when a tractor flipped over on him he was 28. So now I really don't want to ride anymore, but my husband now says get over it, just ride it, that have a better chance getting killed in my Audi convertable, how can I convince him I shouldnt have to ride.

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May 17, 2017
by: C.J.

I was in a accident back in 84 broke my femmor in my leg and my right cheek bone. All is good now. My wife rides a bike and a pick up truck cut in front
of her. she tried to avoid collision & slid. breaking her right shoulder. ok now,but she was afraid to ride again. I told her to take it easy and I went riding with her a lot, to make sure she was OK. did fine. told her to wait at least 6 months before she rode where the accident happened.
Again all is well. By the way in my accident I was
the passenger.

May 22, 2012
ride because you want to!!!!
by: Anonymous

There are no guarentees in life whether you are walking, flying, riding etc. but one thing is for sure you have to be a defensive driver at all times on a bike, expect people to pull out in front of you, expect people to cut into your lane always be looking head for what could go wrong. There are accidents that you can't not prevent but most accidents are caused by the rider themselves. Don't get on the road until you are completly comfortable with your bike. Spend HOURS in a quite parking lot just practicing stop, starting, turning, uphills, downhills eventually thing become more natural. Do not let others make you go faster than you are comfortable with. The only reason to ride is because you want to. ALWAYS WEAR SAFETY GEAR.

May 02, 2012
It's your choice!
by: Jan

I, too, had a motorcyle accident last fall. I was riding with my husband on his bike in a poker run. It was a beautiful day, and we were on the last leg of the run when a series of things happened that led to the accident. I had my helmet on, hubby did not. He broke his right wrist, and got cuts on his face from his sun glasses. I got a broken right humourus (at the shoulder), a broken left wrist (now has a plate and six screws) and a broken left ankle (now had 2 plates and 13 screws). A nurse asked me after surgery that night if I was going to get back on a motorcycle. I told her - not tonight! Off work for 6 weeks, and had physical therapy until March. I was back riding with hubby in March, and I still love it. I am taking the riders course beginning tomorrow to learn to ride my own. So I say, you gotta do what you gotta do, whether it is to ride or not. Me, I gotta ride.

May 02, 2012
Your choice
by: AnonymousNina

Its totally up to you if you want to ride or how bad you want to ride. 18 months ago my husband bought me a bike because I told him I was tired of just sitting behind him or staying home when he rode.....he always came home with a big smile on his face and looking so relaxed. Anyway, I took 2 falls - one rather nasty while learning how to ride. I was sooooo frustrated. And Scared. I refused to get back on the bike, yet I wanted to so badly. This past January we bought me a trike. More specifically a Spyder. I love it. I have since met 2 other gals that have spyders for exactly the same reason.

If you - YOU - want to ride......consider alternate bikes/trike options.

May 02, 2012
I understand your fear
by: Kristy Rayner

I watched you tube, crash videos before I made the decision to learn to ride. I wanted to be certain of the risk and visualize the outcome if I should have a bad crash.

I chose to prepare with gear, and the safety class. Also learned to pick my bike up myself, and to push start it in case of a dead battery.

I over did it my first few solo rides by riding 15 miles to work. I was too far, and I was too tired when I rode home to feel completely comfortable.

I learned to ride in the fall, so the bike sat all winter and my apprehension grew. Then as I'm getting excited about the warmer weather and being able to get back on the bike... there were several bad motorcycle accidents on the main road near my house. I got spooked, & started making all kinds of lame excuses not to ride... I've taken a few short rides and they have gone well but I have a lot of anxiety when I'm on the bike, mostly when cars are too close behind me.

I understand how you feel... especially since you were injured, that compounds the trauma. How about if you just rode on the hubby's passenger seat for a couple of short trips?? That might get your desire to ride your own back -or- make up your mind that you are done riding for now. Either way he should support your decision, even if he doesn't agree.

May 01, 2012
Don't ride!
by: Anonymous

Don't ride. And you shouldn't feel like you have to justify it to anyone. No one should make you do something you don't want to, especially something as dangerous as riding can be. And your husband is so wrong, in an accident, you're more likely to get killed on a bike than in a 4 wheeler - that's just plain and simple common sense.

If you're still unsure, maybe take a few months off, or only ride closer to home (if traffic is light there). And for God's sakes, gear up if you do! You don't even need to be in a collision (as you've found out no doubt) to hurt yourself.

May 01, 2012
by: Dawn

I've taken a few spills over the last 10 years I've been riding. About 2 years in I took a minor spill but it severely played on my head. It took about 3 years before I felt comfortable enough to get back on the "horse". I never want to stop riding. I'm willing to take the risks. That's my choice. My husband has always supported either choice. He wasn't happy it took do long to get back on, however of I chose never to ride again, he would have respected my choice. So should yours. I made it clear that regardless of ever riding my own or long term again, I wanted to get back on the bike just to know myself that the fear would not win. Whatever your choice, I hope your husband (and in turn your marriage as a whole) can respect it. Good luck.

May 01, 2012
Totally agree with others
by: Chris

Riding is not something you just do - for women expecially it comes from the soul. If you are NOT comfortable riding any more then put your foot down with hubs and tell him why. Men think they are such "fixers" but it isn't always as simple as that. Men are macho - women tend to not be - a natural order of things. Your fear is real and I totally understand girl.

May 01, 2012
No bullying!
by: Kelly

You have every right to say no to riding. I agree with all the ladies here that if you are not comfortable, then don't force yourself to do it. Your husband should be supportive, not pushing you to do it. If you do decide to start again, dress safely and wear a helmet. The best thing you can do is trust your instincts and don't let anyone talk you into doing it if you don't want to. YOU have to be the one who wants to do it, and if you don't want to, then don't. But if you do, start slowly and take it easy. Short trips, then work your way up. And stop if it bothers you.

Take care, and I hope it all works out for you!

May 01, 2012
your decision
by: Yvonne - NC

Simple, if you aren't comfortable riding DON'T. You'll be more of a hazard on the rode feeling that way. I've been riding for about 3 yrs now, after a serious wreck on a scooter. No one thought I'd do it, I respect the bide I don't fear it. Until you respect it, you shouldn't be on it. If your husband doesn't understand that, that is HIS problem, not yours.

May 01, 2012
Don't want to ride my motorcycle after accident
by: Donna

Renee,to ride or not to ride is a personal choice.If your heart is no longer in riding, and with the loss of your brother, 1st husband and your recent accident, how could it be, you have the right to simply say, "it's not for me anymore". Please don't let your husband pressure you into riding if you no longer want to. Riding in an apprehensive state may make you prone to another accident. Riding should be for enjoyment. There are a hundred other ways for you to enjoy your life, pick one of those ways. Stand your ground girl! Best, Donna

May 01, 2012
don't want to ride anymore
by: Deeann

Just say NO. No one has the right to bully you into riding; especially your husband. He should be supportive.

May 01, 2012
Your choice not his.
by: Anonymous

You should ride because you enjoy it not because someone wants you to.

May 01, 2012
Your choice no one else's
by: Donna

I'm sorry to hear about your fall :( Never a good thing! But, if you don't feel comfortable then don't!! Nothing worst then being scared and riding a bike. Not wearing a helmet your lucky to be alive. We all have our own choice in life.

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